Motherhood - Rolling with Change

November 2023

© Written by A.Simon

There’s a common quote… that I’m sure you’ve heard before, which states, “the only constant thing in life is change.”  For someone like me, who thrives when things are consistent and comfortable, change is really gosh-darn hard! 

Introduction:

In the journey of motherhood, the one constant is change, a reality that can be particularly challenging for many. As a mother of a toddler and an infant, I've found myself grappling with the inevitability of change, attempting to establish routines only to have my efforts met with laughter from my kids. Adapting to change is a struggle, especially when coupled with the postpartum experience, where hormonal fluctuations and a natural instinct for safety and security create a unique set of challenges.

Body Changes:

The postpartum period brings about profound changes, both physically and emotionally. From sleep regressions to fluctuating milk needs, evolving clothing sizes, and adapting cribs and toys to developmental milestones, the whirlwind of adjustments can leave a mother feeling like she's getting whiplash. Personally, I've witnessed my body undergo a transformation, losing over 40 pounds, yet finding that my old jeans no longer fit. The hormonal rollercoaster manifests in various ways, from hair loss and a changing body shape to unexpected mood swings. Despite these challenges, there's a profound appreciation for the incredible journey of carrying and delivering healthy babies.

Work Transitions:

For many mothers, the end of maternity leave marks a significant transition. Returning to work, even if from the comfort of home, presents emotional challenges. Separation from the tiny human carried and cuddled for months feels inherently wrong. Balancing a full-time workload alongside colleagues who didn't experience such a hiatus underscores the difficulty of transitioning. The realization that work doesn't pause, coupled with the emotional toll of this adjustment, can be overwhelming. Going back to work often feels like a year's absence, underscoring the monumental changes.

Sleep Deprivation:

Sleep deprivation is a universal challenge for mothers, regardless of experience. Despite mental preparation, caring for a newborn involves frequent nighttime awakenings, contributing to fatigue, irritability, and difficulty concentrating during waking hours. However, a respite comes in the form of strategic naps, offering a chance to counteract the exhaustion and rejuvenate for the challenges ahead.

Navigating Baby Blues:

Addressing the emotional challenges of motherhood, it's essential to acknowledge the "Baby Blues." While some women may experience postpartum depression, others encounter milder emotional shifts. The Baby Blues bring mood swings, tearfulness, and vulnerability, a normal response to the immense changes. Recognizing the normalcy of these emotions is crucial, allowing mothers to embrace the full spectrum of feelings without shame or judgment.

Conclusion:

In the grand tapestry of parenthood, the toll on all parents is undeniable. Learning to roll with the changes, embracing the tumultuous journey, and emerging stronger on the other side may seem insurmountable in the midst of it all. However, the collective wisdom of mothers attests that the challenges are always worth it in the end. Motherhood, with its unpredictable twists and turns, is a transformative experience that, despite its difficulties, leaves a profound sense of fulfillment and love.